Date & Dish

So Data Guy and I went out for a third time exactly one week ago. It was fine — we had a good time and exchanged a sweet, simple hug and kiss goodbye. I have been getting that weird “does he like me?” thing I had with CB a long time ago, and I should know by now that that means trouble.

I wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt. Maybe he does really like me but he’s shy? Intimidated? Trying to play “the game”?

No…I think the bottom line is that if he wants to see me, he’ll let me know. I was this close to sending him an IM tonight and just saying, “Hey, I understand online dating can be weird sometimes, and people meet other people, decide to take breaks, change their minds, get busy with life, whatever. I’m just curious as to whether or not you’re still interested in going out with me, just being friends, or none of the above. It’s all totally cool…I’d just like to know…thanks!”

I say I was this close to sending it, but I actually sent him an IM saying “hey” and never got a response. So I attempted to confront him about it but didn’t even have a chance to go there.

Oh well. It’s probably better that way. I need to write him off and move on. Obviously something is going on there that I am not aware of, and my somewhat controlling nature really wants to know, dammit! Even if he thinks I’m a total loser and wants to dump me…I’d just like to know.

I don’t think I’ll ever find out.

I’ve removed him from my IM contact list so I’m not always faced with seeing him online. What sucks is that I actually liked this guy. I realized how difficult it was to see multiple people at once, and I haven’t been on a date with a single other guy since my first date with Data Guy.

However, now that I realize that he’s probably just not that into me (awww), I am going to set up a few dates for the coming weeks. I am also thinking of tweaking my profile a bit. I’m not sure what exactly I want to add, but I really am tired of this guessing game. I’d like to date people who can do for me what I totally expect to do for them…be honest and upfront about things.

Oh…on another note, the Student wrote me back after my last e-mail to him. The gist of it was that he thought I should have told him these things earlier, and he would have corrected it. I think that’s bullsh*t. Pardon my French. I just don’t think you go around changing yourself for other people. I guess what I really mean is that the kind of guy who is that willing to change what he’s doing because some girl (i.e., me) doesn’t like it…I’m not sure how I feel about that. I want to like a guy, faults and all, and have him feel the same way about me. I don’t plan on changing myself if I encounter someone who doesn’t like the way I approach things. And the thing is, I did basically tell the Student many times that I wasn’t interested in a relationship…I just left off the “with you” part. Does it take being that brutally honest? If so, I can start doing that if it will help me out.

So we’ll see what this next round of dating brings. So long, Data Guy…I had fun with you and wish you well.