Thin line between love and hate
Published by Apricot 3 years, 11 months ago in DissesI hate dating, I’ve decided. The guy from the last post, I’ll call him “KP,” and I went out Saturday night and had a great time. Back at KP’s house we had the ex-girlfriend discussion. He said he’s been broken up with the chick for almost a year. I asked if he was over her, and he said almost. I told him I didn’t want to be his rebound girl. So we discussed it and decided we were going a little too fast for his comfort which to me translates into his need of time and space. So we are taking a break for now.
I renewed one of my online dating subscriptions on Sunday. I hate having to date other people to distance myself from him emotionally. I hate not knowing when the next time I will see KP. Hating that he has to go through this pain. Being someone with a track record of two six-month relationships, I hate not having any idea of how he feels or what he’s going through. I can’t help but think no matter what the situation is, there is always another girl between me and a perfect guy. That somehow I will never be good enough. For KP or anyone else. I am not a patient person, and patience is the only thing that will get me through this. I realize there will never be a perfect or easy relationship. Does dating have to be this hard? When dating gets this hard is it time to let them go?
Girl, I am right there with you. See my latest update.
Sorry to hear that….but think of it this way, he’s not saying NO GO AWAY. He’s being mature and healthy to figure out what he needs, just so he’s fair to you. Impatience is hard…..but maybe this is the lesson to be learned. Not that I think it’s good nor do mean to sound like your mother, but I totally have to believe that things happen for a reason.
If they don’t…..then I’m in big trouble……
Hang in there and yes….DATING SUCKS. I hate it.
You know, I really hate dating too. I just want to meet someone, fall in love, and get married. I don’t want to settle and I really just want to be happy. Why is that so &@%$! hard??
oh my gosh, i just figured out what KP stands for!
There is a lot on my mind when I read these posts. You seem like genuine, kind and loving women. I’m hearing a lot of pain in these posts.
However, stop this pity party now!!! Both you and Friday! Do you both want some cheese with your whine? LOL! I don’t mean to belittle your pain b/c if anyone knows pain it’s me. This summer was nothing but pain for me, one disappointment after another.
You know what? I’m not going to cry and moan about in anymore. No. The world does revolve around whether or not I have a girlfriend. I refuse to give away my joy b/c a woman rejected me or the woman I thought I connected with disappears into cyber-oblivion. Nope, not gonna do it.
We’re all human here. We are all wired to want to be with someone. Yes it hurts sometimes, sometimes it hurts bad.
I invite you to join in me not giving your joy away to anyone or anything. Think of the power in that. More importantly, think about how attractive it is to be filled with joy.
I’m not one to tell you what to do. All I’m suggesting is we do our best to remain positive during these setbacks. Gosh I don’t use this to be dramatic. Think about those poor folks in Africa. Do realize that some one dies every 3.6 seconds from hunger. 100 people just died while I wrote this post.
We have so much to be thankful for here in America - even with the Bush Administration ruining everything. From now on for me, I’m making it a point to never give away my joy, especially not b/c a woman didn’t click with me or whatever. I have decided to believe with all of my heart that there is an incredible woman out there for me. I will meet her when the time is right.
Again please don’t think I mean you harm. I don’t. I don’t mean to sound uber righteous either. I hope I don’t. I just know how easy it is to feel sorry for yourself when dating goes bad. Why don’t we do something different?
Paul, I agree with you totally. But I feel like I can still complain about things that suck while I revel in the fact that I have a lot to be thankful for, including the knowledge that someday I will find the right person, at the right time.
I also know that I deserve better than what I’ve gotten so far. So I am doing something about it and politely excusing myself from a situation that just isn’t working for me…how is that giving my joy away?
You have a valid point Paul. Something to think about. One reason I like this blog is that I can bitch about my dating life. That way, my friends don’t have to hear it for 2 weeks. Well, except maybe Posh. I like to think that way it makes the world a happier place.