Don’t Rush Me
Published by Paul 4 years ago in DishesLast night I went over to South African woman’s place. It was our first time alone since reconnecting a few weeks ago.
As we watched Eddie Izzard on the TV I was not getting a “come closer” vibe.
After we turned off Eddie’s history comedy we went outside, sat down and talked. I reached in the cup holder in her chair and found a pack of Parliments and a lighter. I asked if she smoked. She said those cigarettes belonged to a friend of hers and that they were 3 months old.
Finally I made a move. It was received well. But dear D&D readers I’m not sure what I’m doing here. This woman is attractive, intelligent and independent. I just don’t know if I should pursue. I’m not 100% certain.
She said she doesn’t want to rush into anything. I respect that and I’m in no rush either. Part of me thinks I’m settling. Right now there’s no one else. Match.com is a complete, worthless joke. I’m making new friends at church but dating opportunities haven’t presented themselves yet.
Another part of me says to give this a chance. She said, indirectly, that she wants to be friends and cultivate that aspect of our relationship. I’m fine with that, I know how important that foundation is. She also intimated that, in time, things would progress to where they were 3 years ago.
So what will I do? I’m not going to give up yet. My gut says to stick with this for now.
Sometimes a slow burn is better than a big bang. And sometimes the slow burn never turns into a raging fire. There are no right answers here. Go with your gut. It rarely does ya wrong.
I second the notion to follow your gut. But don’t settle! Just listen to your instinct about what’s right for you and don’t second-guess yourself or sell yourself short….
The second stage of dating is uncertainty. It’s normal. Only time will tell if it’s just a stage or if you shouldn’t be together.