Date & Dish

Thursday I met Real Estate Woman at Hand in Hand. It took a few minutes to find her but admittedly I did not do a walk through. She called me and asked where I was as I was sitting by the front door waiting for her to come in.

She sat at the bar with a beer. I gave an introductory handshake and sat beside her. By the way, I hate shaking woman’s hand. I prefer to hug, heart to heart. That is where you place your heart over the woman’s heart. Believe me, there is a big difference.

I was already attracted to her photos. In person she looked just as good, if not better. No she was not a “Tweener.” She was a naturally good looking woman and for me she had everything I like physically. I love women who still look good without makeup.

Just the day before she had finished up a 2^nd bachelor’s degree and was pretty tired. Once we got on the subject of films and screenwriting it was off to the races. We have way different taste in movies and aesthetics. One might argue that’s good. We talked about our favorite movies and genres we liked. She preferred 80’s comedies and I prefer darker, more artistic, dramatic films. There was a good give and take.

When it came to music she was also in another world. Music is my thing and I spend basically all of my time in it. She sort of closed off when it came to music. Not good.

At the end of the date I felt some weird energy. She said she needed to go because she had to meet someone to finish up a school project? What? I told her I’d walk her to her car and she got really defensive and said I didn’t need to. Personally I believe it is a man’s duty to protect the woman with him. I’m old school.

As she got up I hugged her, no not hear to heart. Damn! I told her I wanted to see her again and that I would call her. She said OK.

Then she said, “Are you going to pay for your drink?” Folks I had one tonic water. 99.9% of the time I am never charged for that drink. I got some weird, nervous energy from her at that moment.

She left and I went back to the bar and confirmed with the bartender that I didn’t need to pay. When I asked he made the “Don’t be ridiculous” face.

The next day I sent an e-mail explaining to her that I’m not the type of guy to walk out on a tab. Maybe a mistake?

I get the feeling there will not be a 2^nd date. I’d like there to be, but honestly if I look to the future I don’t see it happening with us. Physical attraction is a must but when that’s over and done with what do you have left? Uh, nothing.

I too share in the frustration of dating. I too want to throw in the towel. To compound my frustration I went to an awesome wedding last weekend and there’s been a 3 week series on of all things, marriage, at my church.

Somehow, someway I have faith that I’ll meet a great woman. Right now that faith is not very strong.