Match Etiquette
Published by Paul 4 years, 1 month ago in MiscellaneousI’ve been on Match.com for a while now. I’ve secured two dates thus far. However I’ve written a lot more than two women.
I am asking for some feedback from you ladies. If a woman doesn’t respond to an e-mail, what does that mean? Is she not interested? Is she testing me? Should I write another time? If so, how many times before I forget about it?
I see the same women looking at my profile. I’ve written them but they have not replied. What are they doing? Are they lurkers?
I know you ladies are bombarded with the most ridiculous and stupid messages from guys. I do my best to set myself apart from the barrage of boredom.
Got a date tomorrow night. I’ll have the dish here afterwards of course.
If a woman doesn\’t respond, it probably means one of two things:
She\’s not interested.
She\’s busy.
I have definitely not responded to guys I have no reason to reject simply because I\’ve been too busy. I would say you could (and should!) nudge her once more at some point, maybe after a week has passed, and if she\’s truly not interested, hopefully she\’ll at least take a moment to let you know.
I think there are lurkers online, but what\’s the point of that? You don\’t want to waste your time with them anyway. You want to go out with a woman who is interested enough to write you back!
Hope your date goes well!
Hmm…this is a tough one. I don’t tend to respond back to guys I’m not interested in. I don’t mean to sound harsh, but I suppose it’s the same thing vice versa. I’ve written a few guys who I thought were interesting (who I also know looked at my profile) and then nada.
So, who knows?
I usually just assume if I don’t get a response back (either way) there is no interest. If they are, eventually you will get something back and like Friday said above, maybe she’s busy. I don’t think she’s testing you, she doesn’t know you well enough to do that, right?
There are definitely lurkers. Maybe they are just trying to get the courage to get in touch with you.
While on the subject, I also wonder about the etiquette or next steps, when you’ve each sent a wink or a smile and so you both know there is some form of interest, but then nothing. You don’t email and they don’t send an email. Is it a who will make the move first?
First and foremost, I believe that there are NO rules in online dating. Consequently, etiquette just gets thrown out the window…
But I’ll throw in my 2 cents here. If you write an email and a girl doesn’t write you back, she’s either too busy or not interested (as Friday and Lost already mentioned).
If you don’t hear back then one more email to nudge is cool. But no more than that.
And if these non-responders are checking you out, but not giving you any positive reinforcement, move on. You’re not a mind-reader!!
Thank you ladies for the great suggestions.